What makes a man appealing? I am sure this question has many different answers, but in Western Culture there are a few qualities that stand out as givens. While looking at my website statistics, I discovered one lonely search term for Baron Montrose. All the other terms are for my name or Nadira’s. Someone somewhere remembered Montrose and was looking for my website with his name. He must have touched them.
I thought about how I created his character so many years ago. I started with an idea. I wanted an interesting man. A sexy man. Of course I did. All novelists do.
Extreme self-confidence is the most sexy trait there is.
I am reminded of this while listening to the radio in the car yesterday. The new holiday Dos Equis commercial played, you know the one…with “the most interesting man in the world”…and I laughed so hard I almost missed a traffic light. A dangerous commercial, indeed.
This is the line that got me: “He is the reason the Nine Ladies are Dancing.”
I think the success of the Dos Equis media campaign is due to inspiration by the many amusing Chuck Norris jokes. He is another man who is neither young nor handsome, and yet he is admired for his fictitious super-powers: “His tears could cure cancer…but he never cries” etc.
When I create a character I want readers to admire I remember all the characters I have admired over the years, real people and imaginary ones. When I wanted Nadira to have a counterpoint in this story, I needed to create a person who was opposite her in thinking and behavior, yet had a hidden core I planned to reveal slowly over several books.
I first went to Mr Darcy (of course…the most interesting man in literature…) but he was too dignified. I then thought of Rochester…but he was too cruel. I imagined Aragorn…but he was too…ok folks, admit it. He is not the sharpest tack…right? And who can forget Heathcliff? The King of Angst. The beauty of being a novelist is the ability to create a character by borrowing traits from everywhere.
I imagined a man strong and capable, with a fierce sense of self…who harbored secret doubts about what he had been taught as a child, what his father had taught him about what it means to be a fine man. But admiration changes based on who is doing the admiring. Is the admirable man a chameleon? Does he change to suit his environment and his purpose? How can one be admired by all unless this is done?
If so, then who are you? You would have to define yourself by how others see you. You would be relying on their admiration to determine your own self worth.
This is my hero’s journey. He was told that he needed to be strong, to be stoic, to be skilled. He was punished for showing any signs of weakness or emotion. His duties were set before him, and failure was not tolerated. When a child is given these directives, what kind of man is produced?
My hero, Montrose, must struggle with opposing forces between the contents of his own heart and mind and the directives of his society. Long-held beliefs are not easily jettisoned. Yet extraordinary circumstances can often be the catalyst for amazing self-discovery. Amazing to Montrose, that is. The adventure I have created forces the characters to examine everything they have known to be true…and realize how wrong they have been. This is a difficult process for anyone. No one likes to admit they are wrong.
But such an admission is admirable in every case. Mr. Darcy realizes he has been wound a bit too tightly. Do you remember his smile at the end of the BBC production (the one with Colin Firth)? Do you realize that for 5 hours you had not seen him smile? Not once. What a shock that was, what an emotional release! And Rochester…his novelist treated him with the most cruelty of all. I would not have punished him so, but perhaps Bronte felt his cruelty needed to be met with equal retribution to bring him to his knees. How your heart breaks, seeing this proud man humbled. And Aragorn…thank goodness for Arwen. She will keep him in line if he just lets her run the kingdom.
Which brings me back to The Most Interesting Man In the World. He is many men, and one man. We know him when we meet him. The combination of confidence and vulnerability is his strength. He has the courage to root out his own flaws and amend them. He may want to be admired by other men for his abilities, but more importantly, he wants to be worthy of his woman’s love. He wants her admiration more than anyone else’s and will strive for it, overcome all obstacles for it, go to the ends of the earth for it. Darcy does it, Rochester does it, Aragorn finally picks up that heavy sword. The hero will persevere until he achieves his goal. Montrose does it.
He is the reason his lady is dancing.